To have a fantastic life living harmoniously and lovingly producing the outstanding results that you want, you will need to be able to let go of any resentments you feel.
After all resentment that you carry inside of you can only hurt yourself. Resentment is a mental process. With resentment, you repeatedly replay a negative feeling, and the events leading up to that feeling, that angers you, upsets you, often with debilitating effects.
Resentment continuously stirs up memories and images polluting so much of your life. You can’t move on. Instead you spend so much time reliving events that affect you mentally, emotionally, physiologically and spiritually in destructive ways. They are doing nothing but harming you, and perhaps other things in your life.
What good is holding on to this resentment doing for you?
None at all!
You have made the choice to hold on to the resentment. You’ve not allowed yourself to move on. In truth you are allowing it to poison so many things in your life. You have probably made decisions based on it which in truth you regret, but the resentment is eating away at you, and you just can’t control it, or the things it makes you think or do.
Maybe life could be so good if you gave yourself some peace.
Isn’t it time to come to grips with the painful feelings of hurt, rejection, and abandonment, and move on.
Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. They leave deep wounds. You carry these demoralising feelings of anger, bitterness and sometimes even vengeance. More often than not you’re totally confused by your feelings, by everything that has happened.
But you can’t get it out of your mind. And the more you dwell on these things, the more bitter you get. Surely you can see this isn’t doing you any good.
I have to use my favourite expression, one which has always helped me through life, and has prevented events and people from bringing me down.
“Shit Happens. Forget it. Forgive them. And move on!”
If I didn’t, I know things that have happened in my life with people could have brought me to a grinding halt. It would have taken over my mind, and I’d have been able to get nothing done.
I understand that holding on to resentment would hurt me more than the actual actions or words of the other person that hurt me in the first place.
The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but if you allow yourself to forgive it will lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life.
Forgiveness is simply the decision to let go of resentment.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong.
Forgiveness is the best choice, always!
Forgiveness is the act of letting go; letting go of the expectation, the demand, the need to be recompensed somehow for a wrong that has been done. It means letting go of past hurts and bad feelings toward another person. And with that letting go comes freedom.
Forgiveness is actually a gift to yourself. It is the process to bring internal healing to your wound or scar. It is a personal decision to release the offender of the indebtedness owed to you.
Forgiveness is not forgetting. You will never forget being hurt. It is not promising to believe that the other person was not guilty or responsible for what they did. Forgiveness is not showing approval of what has been done. You are not conceding that the wrong committed is viewed as anything less serious than before. Forgiveness is not permission to repeat the offense.
Forgiveness is simply your decision to no longer hate the other person any longer. It is letting go of your negative thoughts, your hatred so as to heal yourself. It is a gift to yourself!
So let go of your resentment. Then each time you think negatively about this person, remember that you have already let go of the resentment, and forgive again. Each time the negative thought enters your mind, send it away again. Don’t allow your mind to any longer be filled with vengeful thoughts.
There are only so many blog posts that come along here at Healthy Lifestyles Living where I can actually get away with saying ‘Shit Happens’ and I suppose you may be a bit confused with the post picture. Well it’s not until you see this picture that it all makes sense :-).
And this is my point, sometimes we have to step back and look at situations and smile instead of curse. Just let it go and move on…